The reader wrote:. I feel like there are so many things I will never be able to share with him because he would judge me so severely. He asks probing questions about the details, acts very cold and mean to me, and I walk away feeling horrible about myself. Good for her.
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We all generally prefer to see ourselves as smart, generous, kind, patient, and forgiving people most of the time. We tend to avoid or react to anything or anyone who tries to point out our failures and weaknesses. While this is understandable, we need to realize that our dark side holds the keys to authentic happiness, self-acceptance, and inner freedom. One of the biggest obstacles out there on our paths to wholeness is judgmentalism. Why is it an obstacle?
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Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable. Not everyone though — I was actually very selective in who I judged over the years. I mainly chose only my romantic partners to be judgmental toward.
The early days of dating someone new can be wonderful. Part of that is recognizing if something about them seems off. If, in the first stage of seeing someone, you see too many of these red flags flying instead of fireworks, you might want to look for love elsewhere. The same red flag applies to any service industry folk, like ticket takers, ushers, baristas, and bartenders. But, as commenter There Wolf, There Castle points out , you should watch how they relate to all people in your vicinity.